I was watching Sinners when this phrase came to life for me. There was a scene at the beginning of the film where Stack and Annie were about to have sex. Annie said, "My body remembers you," and it instantly reminded me of a book I had read: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. Suddenly, it all made sense.
It turns out that our bodies sometimes remember things our conscious minds have buried.
I remember someone once told me she wanted to have sex, but every time she tried, her body just shut down. It later turned out she had been raped in a past relationship. While we shouldn’t ignore the psychological side of such experiences, it’s also important to recognize that her body remembered the trauma. The body stores what the mind sometimes forgets.
But here’s what I wanted to say from the beginning: our bodies remember trauma, YES but they also remember pleasure. Just like the woman in Sinners, whose body reacted before her mind could make sense of it. That makes so much sense to me. Maybe just maybe our bodies are the real reason Okafor’s Law exists.
Not because the person “hammered you like a nail”, but because something in your body lights up the moment you see them again. That could explain why it happens, the reaction is physical, a memory embedded in your skin.
Your body retains the memory of pleasure and seeks to relive it, again and again, regardless of how long it’s been or what’s changed between you.
I don’t know if I’m rambling, but the message is clear:
Your body always remembers what it enjoyed. And sometimes, your willpower doesn’t stand a chance.
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